Sex Matters

What is edging? It’s taking you right to the “edge” of orgasm, then stopping, resting, and repeating.

Edging can be even more fun when done with a partner. Pull out your playful side and tease your partner for even more satisfying, sex.

1) In a non-sexual context, bring up the topic of edging to your partner. Explain what it is and why you’d like to try it together. See what they think and talk through any logistics. Make sure to get their consent before moving on to the next steps.

2) When it’s sexy time, get your high-quality lubricant out and ready to go.

3) Get your partner physically aroused in the way they prefer. You can try oral stimulation, fingering, nipple play, etc. Really, it’s about what gets those fires cooking. If your partner has a penis, start stroking them in the way they prefer. They can give you a bit of direction, but edging is about focusing on their own body so the more control you can take, the better.

3) Figure out their peak. This requires regular check-ins, so make sure they’re vocal or can give sound-based cues about when they’re going to come. This will be important because you need to have awareness about when to reduce stimulation.

4) When your partner says they’re going to come (or however they signal they’re close), completely stop the stimulation. Allow their breathing and body to return to normal.

5) Start the stimulation process all over again, going through steps 2-4. Repeat two times.

6) Get your partner going again. This time, allow them to orgasm once they reach their peak.

7) Check in and debrief. What did they like about this? What did you like about it? How did you both feel? This will help you better attune to your partner’s body so that the next time you practice, you can be even more successful. Remember, this is practice, and will take time to master.